The Benefits of Restraint

What are we practicing? Greed or Restraint?
by Alison Bonds Shapiro, M.B.A. in Healing Into Possibility
Originally published online by Psychology Today

We now have the capacity to express ourselves in many ways and in many media outlets in as idiosyncratic a manner as we please. The resulting cacophony of competing interests makes people shout all the louder in order to be heard – just as people do in a crowded restaurant when the volume increases and ordinary conversation becomes useless.

Somewhere in all of this noise, restraint is getting a bad name. When we shout louder we invest more in our opinions. It takes more energy to get attention. And. as a result, we may get very focused on our view, “I want things to go my way – right now”. Feeling entitled to prevail in our own view is a form of greed. That may seem like an odd word to use, but think about it. Wanting what we want without regard to the consequences, whether it’s money, or ice cream, or our opinions to prevail, all comes from the same source: “I want what I want this minute, no matter what!” All that shouting our opinions leads us into practicing greed.

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